I was lucky, mine all came apart very nicely. The only thing I couldn't remove were the rod ends from the hubs. Hammering straight down on the bolts is a no-no, as you found out the hard way
Regarding the jacking...it's popular to stick a jack under the bottom of the rod end to put the balljoint in tension - otherwise it just spins around when you try to undo the nut! D'oh! I'm guessing that's what he was referring to.
No amount of hammering sideways on my rod ends was going to free them off the hubs. I tried Andy's magic formula of heat and WD40, but it wasn't going anywhere. Our old blow-torch was a bit shafted, so perhaps the new one will get them that bit hotter? I'd like to get them off at some point, as I don't like leaving parts stuck, knowing they'll need to come off one day, by which time they're hardly going to have loosened themselves
With a night or two's soaking in WD, plus a good blast with the blowlamp, the ends should come off the tie rods. Just remember to free off the lock-nut first! That way you only need to replace the rod ends, which are all over eBay. Track rods are rather harder to come by. I'd also take it as an opportunity to change the gaiters, while you've got it all apart. Those are often on't bay too.
cheers
James



