What ever happens dude don't get disheartened. You've started on a place on the car that is not visible, and in the grand scheme has a lot of metal around it too, I've always considered that area less than structural else Volvo wouldn't have used self tappers at that point.
For cutting patches, I use a *good* pair of tin snips. Decent ones with bolt cutter like mechanisms (I'm dubious to recommend these at the price, but have had good stuff from tool station before
http://www.toolstation.com/shop/Hand+To ... 410/p22692).
Cut your hole in the car. It's also a bit of an art form, you want to cut all the rust but leave enough of the original shape to know where to go from next. I used to be a big fan of cutting out a really big part, but I've found that doesn't work as well for me, I loose where about I am trying to work and what the complex shapes should be. Even welding a bit of "scrap patch" to some rust to give you an outer edge sometimes helps (I'm thinking about flares like wheel arches and wings here). Then make a card template that fits *exactly* even down to holes etc. If you can bend a bit of card to fit the hole exactly you can bend the metal too. Flatten the card, transfer to the metal, cut out with tin snips, drill the relevant holes etc whilst it's flat. Offer it to the car, compare to bends in card. Use your favourite metal bending techniques (vice, pliers, ball peen all count if they work for you). Dont go to far, offer it back to the car. Keep doing this until there is between touching and 0.5mm of gap all the way round the patch. Better fitting patch makes the easiest welding. When you are super happy, tack in a corner. Find everything has moved. Tap the patch if needed to reshape, get another tack in about an inch away. Keep going until it's tacked. Then, I do short burst, about half inch long, as I'm not good enough to run an entire bead yet without building up so much heat I blow holes or distort everything. Go to other side of patch, do another half inch. Keep going until it's seemed.
How I first started (which as you can see, lost a lot of the complex shapes. Whilst it looks like there isn't much penetration there, it is visible on the other side of the wing, the camera flash is screwing about though granted they are damn ugly welds and could be better.) Note, incorrect card used, NOT corregated, it doesn't bend as well.

Note all the detail that is missing, sad times and could do better.
New method, including some of the bits you are trying

Note complex shape where inner wing stops being vertical and does the inner horizontal to the self tapper holes.

It's not easy to see, but this "patch" welded between rust and fresh air follows that inner wiggly bit exactly, to give me something to aim the vertical piece to. Main horizontal also can be done as it's got clear edges from it's surroundings.

Process here was make card patch, tack weld in the vertical patch, then cut out the "wiggly bit" "patch" when you have it in the right place. Then seam weld the vertical patch in knowing the bottom line that has to be in fresh air is in the right place.

Then make the proper outer bit including the strengthening flick at the edge.

Grind back. I'm quite proud of this one, I had some help to do it mind, but it worked really really well I think.

Horrible picture, but the bit you are doing. Three patches in total in this pic. Holes were made before bending, before tacking.

All rest of surface rust removed with scotchbrite, treated and primed with Hammerite No.1 (I love this stuff)
Sorry for thread jacking, hope that might be a bit useful. Just remember everyone finds their own technique and that comes from practice. Cars are a swine to weld, they are made out of rusty thinness. I used to think apprenticed ship builders were awesome for their welds, but they are using new steel, give or take 7mm thick most of the time. They just turn the power up to 11 and have done. Thats easy compared.
It's also a good place to start. Think of some projects in 3mm or so steel that can use welding. Weld up a picture frame or pen holder or name plaque or something in 3mm. New steel, from the new steel shop, it's super cheap. Then think of a mini project in 1.6, so the same. Then 0.8, buying more 0.8 as you'll screw up a few times. Then next time you weld the car it *will* be easier. You will blow holes in bits that look good but that the rust has made super thin (equiv of 0.3mm almost a lot of the time) but you learn to deal with it. Once you can do all that, ebay becomes a place of possible awesomeness if only you had that really big barn and unlimited time!